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Tells
are the essential building blocks of courtship, love and sex. From
the very first moment that potential lovers meet, they’re looking
for signs of sexual attraction and using tells to signal their interest
in each other. For a loving relationship to work, two people need
to be in harmony. It’s like a dance – if they don’t
move together, physically and emotionally, things aren’t going
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The
programme begins with the simple act of kissing, showing how it’s
critical for the participants to synchronise their actions. For couples
who are genuinely in love synchrony comes naturally; but when people
aren’t in tune with each other it’s much more difficult
for them to coordinate their actions. You can also see this in the
way couples walk together, hold hands, remain physically close, and
are sensitive to each other’s needs and desires. |
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By
analysing celebrity couples like Kate Winslett and Sam Mendes, Michael
Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley, and Michael Douglas and Catherine
Zeta Jones, we can see who’s in control, what’s happening
in their relationship and where it’s heading. The tells that
were in evidence when Prince Charles and Diana announced their engagement
are compared with those on display when Prince Edward and Sophie announced
theirs. We also compare the unconscious, giveaway signals produced
during their weddings and discover that while Edward and Sophie showed
all the signs of being deeply in love, Charles and Diana’s marriage
was in trouble from the very start. |
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The
programme explores the development of relationships by observing a
Speedating evening and by watching what happens at a party where everybody’s
a stranger. We analyse the role played by smiling, laughter and facial
expressions during the speedating encounters and find that that the
different flirting styles of men and women reflect the divergent evolutionary
pressures on the sexes. The party provides an opportunity to observe
the tells of courtship at close quarters, and to explore a wide range
of tells, including the hair-flick, the eye-pop and the release pat.
We discover that in a courtship dance it’s usually the woman
who leads, and that women are quite happy to flirt with men even when
they have no desire to take things further. |
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We
conclude by looking at established couples and the tells they
use
to show everyone that they’re together. Focussing on Charles
and Diana as an example, we see how the history of a couple’s
relationship is written in their tells. Taking Bill Clinton as an
example, we
look
at what the tells reveal when someone has been unfaithful to their
partner. The programme shows that once you can understand the language
of tells other people’s relationships become an open book.
The language of tells also enables us to read our own partner, and
to
discover what we really feel about them. |
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